As humans, we strive for acceptance. To gain acceptance, we substitute our self-worth for a facade of who we want to be, ultimately becoming posers. Posing is the self we reflect onto others; it is the “perfect” we strive to achieve in order to gain praise from the peers around us.
I want to focus on the idea of “appearing confident.” So often in a human’s life, the idea of appearing confident is the way to success. We mask our pain with material wealth and often disregard all moral aspects in order to achieve personal gain. This creates a “false impression.”
Whether you see it or not, every day we pose. Every day we change bits of our lives to conform to a more perfect scheme. Maybe it is a little lie, maybe it is acting a different way around a specific group of people, no matter what it is, it is not the true image of who we are. We master the art of manipulation.
Why do we feel this urge to satisfy humans? Why don’t we strive to satisfy ourselves? It’s the loss of self-love; we forget that the very reason why we pose is to make ourselves feel better and to feel included with others in an attempt to fill the insecure wounds in our hearts. The only remedy to heal is to love, and it starts within.
Posing comes from brokenness; we believe we are not enough, therefore, we deceive others. We feel we may not be accepted. It is a sad world, but something that we have to realize is that everyone feels that way. Everyone has insecurities. When we learn to love ourselves, we learn to accept, and when we learn that skill, we begin to accept others for who they are. This is how you combat posing.
Loving acceptance is a powerful tool; it is the ability to look beyond someone’s faults and bring them into love. Love and acceptance are the remedies to a broken world. It is a poser’s kryptonite. They crave outer acceptance when what they need is loving acceptance. The ability to be loved unconditionally and not have to be someone they are not to earn love from others.
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